As you work on improving your intuitive communication or animal communication skills, it can help to partner with a study-buddy. A study-buddy is a non-human animal with whom you can practice regularly. My first study-buddy was a basset hound named Saxon Brew. He was my partner as I took my first wobbly steps into the world of Animal Communication, and he was mostly no-nonsense about it. We lived together, which made daily practice a lot easier. He accepted my leadership in most things, but when it came to communication lessons, he was in charge.
Saxon was patient. I appreciated his willingness to play games early on. He set the pace, always challenging me to do better. Eventually, he refused to play games, instead choosing to speak in whispers and expecting me to learn to use all my senses to receive information. I appreciated his way, even when he frustrated me.
What to Look for in a Study-Buddy
Take the time to pick a study-buddy who’s suited to the project and partnership you have in mind. Working together to build your skills may well change your relationships, not only with your chosen partner but with all other non-human animals and maybe even some of the human ones, too. For me, Animal Communication has offered the opportunity to strengthen and deepen my relationships and communication with just about everyone in my life. It’s made mine a richer world. I’ve had good partners along the way that helped make that happen. As you choose your study-buddy, keep proximity, patience, trust, and enthusiasm in mind.
When you’re choosing your study-buddy, I advise you look for someone with whom you can spend time easily every day. If you have a non-human animal friend who lives with you, he or she may well be an ideal partner. A neighborhood friend, like the cat who likes to watch for mice under your front porch or the dog who lives across the street, can make a good partner, too. Being able to see one another in-person regularly helps in the beginning when your skills are young and you haven’t yet learned to trust your intuition.
It’s also wise to choose a study-buddy who’s excited about helping you learn. Not every non-human animal wants to be a teacher. Some come here to just enjoy life, other’s to work on their own skills or lessons that may well have little to do with the human world. Just because your friend is living with you doesn’t mean he or she will be thrilled to help you learn to communicate better. Teaching can take a lot of work. It can be frustrating. From your friend’s perspective, it can mean seemingly endlessly boring games akin to spending hours with a very small child stacking blocks or reading the same story book over and over.
Plus, studying communication together so closely may well unveil secrets on both sides of your partnership. As I began to listen properly, I quickly found quite a few dogs and other animals who were content to let their people call them stupid or silly just so long as they could keep getting away with behaviors like wrapping the leash around poles or trees on walks or circling the table at dinner time. Many of them politely asked me to keep their secrets. They didn’t want their people to start seeing them differently at all; humans and noon-humans are alike in that sometimes we’re content to adopt a role and play it to the fullest even if it’s not an authentic expression of who we are inside.
Beyond being sure you’ll see your study-buddy regularly and he or she is excited about working with you, look for a partner who’s personality is suited to your own. If you’re someone who tends to be quite independent, a study-buddy who’s able to give you space to explore is important. But, if you like to get a lot of feedback along the way when you’re learning something new, a study-buddy who gives you lots of space may leave you feeling lost and alone. Saxon Brew was good at setting the pace as I developed my skills. He was also quite good at trading places; he was willing to follow my lead in most aspects of life and easily become the leader with regard to my intuitive development. That ability to trade leadership roles was invaluable for me. Be as clear and aware of what you need to succeed as you can and keep that in mind as you choose your partner.
All You’ve Gotta Do is Ask
Once you’ve chosen a study-buddy candidate, ask him or her to be your partner. Take the time to explain what you’re trying to do: Learn to use your intuitive communication skills to communicate the way non-human animals do. It’s quite okay to explain this aloud just as if you were talking to another human. Our non-human animal friends generally understand our spoken language even if they were raised by humans who spoke a different language. Tell your friend that it’ll involve sometimes playing silly games that help you learn to trust yourself, that you’ll probably get it wrong a lot in the beginning, so that may be frustrating to the both of you. Most likely, your friend will understand.
Once you’ve explained what you want, let your friend respond. Watch how he or she acts. Do you get the sense your friend is happy with the idea? Is there a lot of tail-wagging or singing or snuggles in response to your request? Or, are you getting the cold shoulder? Did your friend walk off as if you’re asking too much? What is the general feeling you’re getting? If it seems your friend doesn’t want to be your study-buddy, ask for clear confirmation. Tell him or her to walk away if the answer is no and to walk toward you if the answer is yes, for instance. Likewise, if you’re not sure the answer was yes, ask for the same kind of clear confirmation.
Above All, Be Respectful
If your friend says no, be respectful of that. In good communication, we must both hear and respect our partners. This, in truth is your first lesson. So, if the answer is no, accept it and look for a new partner. If your friend comes back later and says yes, accept that, too. Sometimes, it takes a little thought to make such a commitment as helping us humans awaken to our own intuitive skills. If the answer is yes, you’ve got a partnership you can celebrate.